In the first part of this series, we looked at how anxiety is often driven by the question, “Am I safe?”—a question that can quietly shape our emotional landscape.
In this post, I want to explore something we often overlook: the words we use. Language can either reinforce anxiety or gently guide us toward healing.
Think of how often we say:
- “I’m anxious.”
- “I’m overwhelmed.”
- “I’m scared.”
These statements merge identity and emotion. While they’re commonly used, they also send a subtle message to the subconscious: this is who I am.
Now try this:
- “I feel anxious right now.”
- “I’m experiencing overwhelm.”
- “Fear is showing up for me today.”
By shifting from I am to I feel, we remind ourselves—and our inner world—that emotions are temporary. They pass. They don’t define us. This small but mighty change can be the first crack of light in a heavy moment.
The Power of Specific Language
When someone says, “I have anxiety,” it could mean anything—from nervousness about an upcoming event to an overwhelming sense of dread. It’s so broad that it becomes hard to work with.
Getting specific is key:
- “I feel nervous about talking to my boss tomorrow.”
- “I notice a tight feeling in my chest when I think about driving.”
These details are not just useful—they’re empowering. They give us something to work with, something to tap on, and a clearer path toward relief.
And when we use EFT with specific phrases and sensations, it’s no longer just “banging on the table” as my mentor says—we’re actually supporting movement and healing.
In the next post, we’ll look at how time and curiosity can help ground us and create space between ourselves and anxiety.